Maddisen K. Krown, M.A. is a Life Coach,Â Columnist, and Speaker who works with individuals and groups throughout the U.S. and the world. She supports the wholeness and well being of her clients, guiding them into the fuller purpose and quality of life that calls them.Â
Why do I keep ending up on dates with guys who are not what my heart desires? And who are not the right match for me at all?! I want to change this, for the better! CS
This is a very common question and frustration. The truth is - whether you’re a man or a woman, finding someone who feels like a healthy and happy match can be a challenge and a mystery for sure! But I believe, and my experiences have been showing me, that we definitely have the ability to be more at cause over what we experience in life, and more specifically, what kind of people and love partners we attract.
If you are ready to get out of the trunk and into the driver’s seat in this situation, you must first get clear about what you want, and then practice thoughts, feelings, and actions that support what you want. Taking control of your own life and changing from the inside is the most empowering and effective way to experience changes on the outside.
We are Here to Love Now
Try this simple and powerful approach:
List 3-5 or more things your heart desires in the area of love relationships.
• Date someone who is really wonderful and a great match for me
• Find the person of my dreams
• Have a fulfilling and loving relationship that grows into marriage and family
• Experience lasting mutual and deep love and intimacy with my mate
Next, turn these desires into Afformations. (If you’re not sure what an Afformation is, take a few minutes and read my previous blog, and then come back to do this!) “The Right Way to Ask and Receive – Finally!” http://nohoartsdistrict.com/ask-maddisen/item/2284-the-right-way-to-ask-and-receive-finally#.U1VHY2GPLIU
• Why am I dating someone now who is wonderful and the perfect match for me?
• Why are we both so happy that we’re the perfect match for each other?
• Why is it natural and easy to find the person of my dreams?
• Why am I having the most fulfilling and loving relationship I could imagine?
• Why are my partner and I getting married and creating a wonderful family life together?
Write your Afformations in a journal, and read and recite them aloud daily for the next 40 days. Also note in your journal any realizations you have during this process. And if any other non-empowering thoughts or beliefs arise related to this area, simply turn them into positive Afformations and add them to you daily list!
Fact: Improve Your Thoughts and You’ll Improve Your Life
And so dear CS and all my readers – simple steps like these are your keys to fulfillment and freedom. So grab the keys and get out of the trunk and back into the driver’s seat of your precious life. Consciously choose and practice thoughts that reflect your heartfelt desires. Trust that your desires are coming to you to tell you what is already being created for you. This is one of the main reasons we are here – to enjoy the miracle of life on this miraculous planet Earth!
“Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around.” – Henry David Thoreau
“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.” – Tony Robbins
“Believe in love. Believe in magic. Hell, believe in Santa Clause. Believe in others. Believe in yourself. Believe in your dreams. If you don't, who will?” – Jon Bon Jovi
Your Life Coach,
Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.
I hear and read about using affirmations. I’ve tried them, but I usually don’t believe what I’m affirming. How can I achieve my dreams if my head is full of conscious and unconscious thoughts that don’t support what I’m asking for? Help! JJ
I hear you loud and clear! Positive affirmations can have value, and are intentions that help to keep our minds directed and focused on the things we want vs. what we don’t want to experience. But the problem with affirmations is that they often kick up the dust of rascally hidden beliefs that are in resistance to those affirmations, making it sometimes difficult if not impossible to achieve them.
There are many methods available for clearing conscious and unconscious false and limiting thoughts and beliefs. And this is certainly a worthwhile pursuit and activity; because when we do this, it’s like we are clearing clouds that have been blocking the sunshine and radiance of who we truly are – empowered loving souls who are here for a human experience! From this perspective, we’re not so much healing as we are revealing our true nature.
The Book of Afformations
Recently, I came across a book that I believe offers a groundbreaking approach to this successful clearing and revealing process, through a form of questioning. It’s called, “The Book of Afformations” by Noah St. John. Afformations are not affirmations! Big difference! Read on…
According to Noah, what’s really happening when we attempt to change our lives is this:
Belief gaps may vary in size depending on the person. “The bottom line?” says Noah, “Until you cross your individual Belief Gap for each result, outcome, or experience you want in your life, it will be very difficult for you to make the leap to reach the new life and create the new reality you desire.”
In his book, Noah teaches us how to bridge the belief gap with questions that point our minds in the direction of answers and what we want, instead of what we don’t want.
Time to Hop Across the Belief Gap
Noah explains how our minds are programmed to answer questions. They’re like computers in that way. When you ask a question, your mind automatically begins to search for answers. So, if we’re using self talk like this: “Why can’t I be successful with my work?”or “Why am I so broke?” – our minds give us answers to those questions – like this: “You can’t be successful because…” or “You’re so broke because…” looking for and providing all the reasons why we’re not successful and why we’re broke!
Whereas if we ask the questions like this: “Why am I successful with my work?” or “Why am I spending less than I earn?” – our minds will look for answers and actions to support those questions – like this: “You’re so successful with your work because…” or “You’re spending less than you earn by…”.
This is a subtle but very powerful shift in how to use our minds to support what we want. The subtle difference and power shift into the direction of experiencing our heartfelt desires comes from an empowering question, not an affirmation.
I agree with Noah, as he explains that we create our lives, minute by minute, with the statements we make to ourselves and others, and by the questions we ask ourselves. And that by switching to and regularly asking ourselves empowering questions, we can unleash our ability to take action and express Who We Truly Are!
Reveal and Live Who You Truly Are
He provides a very simple and easy method for identifying our conscious and unconscious ‘clouding’ beliefs, followed by a specific format for asking empowering questions directed at clearing the clouds to reveal the path and experience of what we truly want. Honestly, this approach was not all what I expected! But it works! I’m using it and my clients are using it successfully too!
And so dear JJ and all my readers, keep going and clear the path of your dreams! Check out “The Book of Afformations”, by Noah St. John. It’s worth reading and doing. http://www.amazon.com/The-Book-Afformations-Discovering-Happiness/dp/1401944140
“The power to question is the basis of all human progress.” – Indira Gandhi
“For every question, there is an answer. Where everybody fails is by asking the wrong question.” – Richard Diaz
“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” – Albert Einstein
From the heart,
your Coach Maddisen
Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.
Would you like to learn powerfully simple, step-by-step processes for harnessing and sending loving energies to yourself and others for healing purposes? Would like to learn how to trace illness to its true source?
If your answer is “Yes” – I’d like to invite you to this special workshop with Dr. Leonard Laskow on March 28-30, in Los Angeles. We've extended the early registration deadline to March 9th. There are several spaces left.
I've had the privilege of training with Dr. Laskow for several years, and am honored to use his powerfully healing processes with my clients and my self.
Workshop Event: Awakening your Healing Heart, Holoenergetics© Level I
In this hands-on experiential 3-day workshop, Dr. Laskow will guide us in four processes:
1.) Learning to ‘trace’ illness, suffering, and distress to its source – which is the apparent separation from the whole – and transforming this energy of separation into unifying love through the extraordinary Holoenergetic Tracing Process.
2.) Transpersonally aligning with patients and clients to transmit loving energies to others and self for healing purposes.
3.) Accessing Conscious Heart Space, which induces heart coherence and allows direct access to aware loving presence in the here and now.
4.) Practicing the profound Holoenergetic Forgiveness Process, which opens a portal to oneness and freedom through unconditional love.
What is Holoenergetic® Healing?
Holoenergetic® Healing involves healing with the energy of the whole, not just parts of ourselves, not just the symptoms, but healing the body and mind, and bringing the body and mind back to its natural state of wholeness and wellness.
Who is Leonard Laskow, M.D.?
Dr. Leonard Laskow, the Stanford-trained physician and researcher, is author of “Healing with Love” and founder of the Holoenergetic® Healing Foundation. He has studied and researched the healing power of love for more than 30 years. Dr. Laskow is a consultant in Behavioral and Energy medicine in Ashland, Oregon and gives seminars at universities, medical centers, and holistic institutes internationally. Read more about him at: www.laskow.net
Register Now! Early registration ends on Sunday, March 9th
Workshop dates: March 28, 29, 30, 2014 / Friday, Saturday, & Sunday, 9:30am - 5:30pm
Early Registration (by March 9): $395.00. Registration (after March 9): $475.00
*Continuing Education Credits are available for RNs.
Treat yourself to 3 powerful days of awakening, empowerment, healing, and peace with Dr. Leonard Laskow! I look forward to seeing you there!
“Throughout the workshop, Dr. Laskow gently guided me to deeper levels of awareness of Love than I had previously experienced. His kindness, gentleness, experience and wisdom created what I experienced as the most powerful experience of oneness so far.” -BW
“It's one of those experiences that words can't come close to describing!” -MV
“Despite the appearance of conflict, humanity is experiencing an acceleration of the awakening process. Right now it is possible to realize your true nature. To the extent that we bring ourselves into wholeness, we’ve been healed.” – Leonard Laskow, M.D.
From the heart,
your Coach Maddisen
Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.
I have a feeling my boyfriend is going to dump me. We’ve been together for about 8 months, and I thought we were getting closer, but he’s suddenly pulling away and getting really distant. I have that sinking feeling. How do I deal with this? Break up with him before he pulls the plug? But I like him so much. Feeling screwed up. Help! Thanks, BI
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